(((Secrets of the leaders of Excellence)))
Start Guide and the liberalization of the potential
The first key
Resolution road to success
"The secret of success in life lies in that a person is prepared to seize the opportunity when it arises"
Benjamin Dezrali
Important in this key covered Dr. Feki 8 points as follows: -
1 - the power of decision-making
There is nothing to discourage "Burns, exclusion of every wrong attempt is only another step forward"
Addison
Here are reviews Fiqi importance of decision-making and the thing that I subscribe to the Ford and Edison and other successful is the decision-making and thus found their way to success.
The author shows that the reason for the survival of the majority of people in the safe zone lies in the failure to take serious decisions for fear of failure.
And the ability to change things, can only be when you decide to be your decision maker.
2 - eight types of decision makers:
"No one is more miserable than one who has become his habit is the only Allagherar"
William James
Here are reviews of Dr. Ibrahim eight models for decision-makers in order to identify any of them you Knowing your style in decision-making is the first step to making the right decision:
A - risk-loving
B - Skirted problems
C - AC
D - his logic
E - Conan (a lot of doubts)
And - emotional
G - Democrat
H - the resolution (last minute)
The author shows that the issue differ on Which is better, not that the decision maker is successful who is flexible charmingly democratic and other emotional and the other a mixture of some models depending on the situation 0
3 - Ten reasons lead to wrong decisions: -
"What's the happiest person that can investigate the causes of things," Vergil
Voyager and Dr. Ibrahim Al-Feki said ten reasons to use them in future decisions, namely:
A - the tension and pressures of work
B - perception (through your efforts to strengthen your point of view and your sense)
C - Fear
D - Anger
E - external influences (Kalmthbtat)
And - narrow-minded thinking (such as resolutions hasty)
G - the ideal (while stopping to think and collect information for the decision may miss the perfect opportunity)
H - not organization and mixing priorities
K - failure to pay attention to the need for swift decision
For - to take decisions based on what you hear only.
Now, says Dr. Fiqi money where you know you should do in case you are ready to find out what you should do
4 - The Ten Commandments to make the right decision: -
"If you have lemons, you making lemonade," Julius
And here and after that I got to know your style of decision-making and stood on the top ten causes of erroneous decisions, it is time to equip themselves to be effective methods you decide which is right
A - accustomed to making decisions in daily and frequently.
B - Learning from previous experiences.
C - you need to consult experts.
D - Imagine you're someone else (look at the decision from the viewpoint of another person.
E - Do not be biased (to your feelings and your feelings).
And - warn the ego position.
G - implementation (do not be late).
H - Be flexible.
I - Avoid generalizations.
J - follow-up.
If your future depend on the decisions of the day .... start today and make the decisions of a small and simple and you should be in a short period to climb the ladder of success.
5 - How to take a collective decision: -
"Life is a daring adventure ...... or nothing" Helen Keller
The author points important to the composition of collective decisions as follows: -
A - Start typing the subject in detail 0
B - distributed to members, and be sure of their understanding of the subject 0
C - asking individuals to give their comments on the topic 0
D - Collect sounds more convenient with the introduction of solutions in Aloattabaralosilp the following:
How much it will cost?
What is the worst case scenario that may occur and how can they be addressed?
What is the best that can be achieved and how to keep it?
What Alatharalgaribp and long-term resolution to this?
E - the deployment of responsibilities to ensure success.
And - monitoring the implementation of the resolution and determine the results.
It says here that Dr. Ibrahim Alaqrarsicon firm and solid to yield the desired results.
6 - How to take an urgent decision: -
"If you do not try to do something beyond what had mastered, you do not ever make"
To address problems that require immediate decisions can not be delayed review the methods of Dr. Ibrahim Al-Faki successful for better decisions, namely:
A - old method (Ben-Hakim)
Here take the paper and Taktha to two columns in one (Yes) and the other is (not) and then write a column in the pros (yes) and the negatives in the column (not) 0
Accordingly, the preponderance of the column with the largest number in 2000
B - to look at the problem from a different perspective:
Any to look at it from different angles, for example,
..................... Position and the position of the different point of view
Increased advertising costs ...................... greater publicity and more sales
[B ]^^^^ important ^ ^ ^ ^
(When you have to take a decision urgently you need to be more conservative and try to get the longest possible time before the issue Resolution)
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7 - self-esteem and decision-making process: -
The self-esteem according to Dr. Feki is the key to success is the element Alriisi for a happy life
And self-esteem is a sense of internal peace with oneself.
The author argues that the right decisions that stem from the good feelings and not vice versa
And feeling inadequate hampers to make informed decisions instead of (I can not) replace b (I can)
Dr. Ibrahim, ad and how to build your assessment of yourself: -
A - note the things that you say to yourself
B - Repeat these assertions every day
- Every day improves my appreciation to myself
- I thought to myself I love and respect is conditional
- I make decisions easily
- I'm an excellent decision-maker
C - Department of age to 3 stages each stage 15 years
- Type Now 3 sound decisions taken since I was born until he was age 15 years and record how these decisions on your feelings and your life improved from 0
- Repeat the same in the period of 15-30 year
- Repeat the same in the period from 30-45 year
Here it becomes to have 9 resolutions give you the power Read it from time to time Start today trust in yourself and your eligibility to succeed ....
8 - decision-making process: -
"When it comes to excellence, it is not enough to know, but you should try to get knowledge, and exploited"
Konfbius
In this part of the important subject to be submitted by Dr. Ibrahim Al-Fiqi everything you need for your decision to be successful and correct
"Spend minutes of your time, and which resulted in this duty to begin today at the rise of the ladder of success"
A - Record 3 decisions had already been postponed, select the Action Plan for implementation, and the time required for each decision.
B - Begin implementation now ......... Do not delay Do not delay ..... ..... there is no harm if it made a mistake, everyone makes mistakes ..... It is important to learn from the mistakes of the better decisions in the future.
He concludes that key Al-Fiqi said:
^^^^^( Every great success started in the first decision sparked )^^^^^
The second key
Stimulus in 2000 the driving force of human excellence
"All your actions, whatever your identity, or whatever the job occupied by an item published by the stimulus inside you, whether this stimulation a positive or negative"
Faki Ibrahim
The author deals with this key by 8 points as follows:
1 - What is the motivation? What does it mean?
"The main task of which lies with the person in his life, is that happening and there is the same, you'll be a catalyst, the level of your performance will be at the top and vice versa"
ARCHES Fromm
Al-Fiqi and reviews some of the definitions to stimulate that action by the incentive if Valthvez issued by the desire to achieve a particular goal or when you experience the challenges and you want to make changes for the better you will be here at the top of the stimulus is aiming to achieve your goals without obstacles or failures.
2 - The process of motivation: -
"Perhaps the wonders of life if you rejected all that is below the summit, you always link to it," William Somerset
Al-Fiqi review process of motivation to learn, namely: -
- The desire to start Valthvez desire to achieve a better life
- Imagine Imagine that you achieve your dream and you have already experienced
- Talk to the restraint event yourself gives you the power and provoke you moving I can say
- Verb (implementation) be sure to be done to achieve what you want
3 - the three types of stimulus: -
"There are lots of possibilities to the beginner, but there is little the expert has" Suzuki v
A - the primary incentive to stay:
This incentive covers all the primary needs food, water, air
According to Dr Ibrahim importance to be vigilant and creative catalyst for that to imagine that you become this incentive
All the time then your creativity will be strong and excellent results
B - external stimulus: -
This stimulus comes from outside, it may be read from an article or attended a seminar or phrase I heard or received praise and this ..... According to Al-Fiqi that the misfortune of human beings that depend on these incentives to the feeling of being admired by others
James says "If you wait praise of others, you will become easy prey to deception"
C - stimulation procedure: -
This is the type according to Dr. Fiqi species more power and a continuation of the impact and efficiency of the reason is that you be driven by your strength to achieve your goals of self-Semitism ....
Here, the author recalls this experience to motivate yourself to do it procedure, namely: -
Close your eyes
Breathe deeply
Remember your experience passed
Try to live again as if it were a reality
Breathe the same way ....... I feel the same sensations that passed through your
Repeat this exercise to be skillful.
4 - the fastest ten ways to frustrate subordinates: -
"While I work, I do not care what people say, but my interest was seconded what they are doing," Andrew Carnegie
Ten ways to thwart the subordinates, namely: -
1 - instability (change management style always)
2 - salaries of non-remunerative
3 - humiliation and ill-treatment
4 - false hope
5 - routine
6 - bad products offered by
7 - conflicting goals
8 - to blame
9 - favoritism
10 - Personal behavior
Feki says that if you do not find yourself in one or more of these ten, you are on your way to reach the top 00
5 - five benefits to motivate subordinates: -
"The most powerful thing in the world, is an idea that came at the right time," Victor Hugo
Thvez five benefits for staff:
A - low rate Dorlan staff (change them)
B - low rate of absenteeism
C - the behavior of better staff
D - achievement of the Millennium
E - energy (stimulus generates energy)
6 - Twenty effective way to motivate staff: -
"The best way to determine what motivates people is to ask them," Harold. Alyndon Mac
Namely: -
Praise and appreciation, and there are rules to be effective, namely: -
- To play in public after the completion of the task directly
- Honesty
- Do not exaggerate
- Do not forget to do so always
- Awards / reward
- Racing
- Upgrading
- Training
- Confidence
- Identify the target (the great man is the one who can complete its work by the minds of others)
- Accomplishment (today's achievements is an effort yesterday)
- Credibility
- Decision-making (through the involvement of Almkozvin in)
- Authorization
- Improvement and growth
- Personal behavior
There is a great way according to the writer to motivate employees, namely:
- Maintaining a warm smile
- Listen to them
- Calling them by their names
- Bear the responsibility of your mistakes do not Tlgaha staff
- Be fair
- Be sure to introduce them to the changes
- I respect their time
- Show interest personally Bmrwusik
- Gifts
- Christmas (the celebration of their birthdays)
- Production of good
- Create challenges in front of them
7 - Effective five ways to motivate yourself: -
"There is always a better way for the performance of all, you just have to find" Edison
You have to learn how to motivate yourself to be you the ability to face challenges with confidence and full control of infinitely Here are five methods cited by the writer to motivate yourself, namely: -
1 - goal-setting (select your goal ... to do something every day that brings you closer to the target)
2 - self-development (try to escape from the boredom and apathy) numismatic yourself.
3 - March special interests of your hobby because they lead to a stable life and better.
4 - Privilege Club idea that you find a group of friends at work or outside work meets with them every week discussing with them on specific topics important to you and you will find solutions as they develop and strengthen self-debate to have.
5 - Book achievements daily ... daily record of your achievements in the book I am reading .... and permanently and continuously
8 - NLP and motivation: -
"The man made a plan himself," Bacon
And this is laid out as follows: -
Breathing .... Take a deep breath and promised to one and then remove yourself promised up to four Repeat 5 times.
Perception .... imagine yourself at the top of the stimulus.
The situation ended 00 Stand up and sit with your back in mind to be in an upright position and head to the top
Emphasis ... Say to yourself I can do it 5 times and then repeat it aloud.
Feelings .... Emphasize the fact that the former make you feel all your senses.
Grip .... Now combine your fist, Orkha, then annexed Repeat this several times now when you want to put yourself at the top of Alhvez and preparedness, which included a grip.
This was the conclusion of this chapter (the second key) concludes Dr. Fiqi this chapter proverb Pablelios Sears
"Many people may accept the advice, but only the wise ones who benefit from it"
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Decided to be an excellent catalyst
The third key
00000000000 change the true reality of life.
"I am concerned that what is not getting better in the areas of Tvouki, do not take advantage in the areas of Tvouki, not to take advantage of everything I've learned, to know what Hohee right and proper, I can not change that and I gave it to her to address citizen Gergadraly Ikhvaki and sacral" Konfiius
Aims Acanutorafiqi Ibrahim of putting this chapter provide you with the skills to effectively which enables you to cope with change, and adaptation, which helps you, that welcomes the change, and have mastered the arts, the more I knew more about the change and made it part of your daily life, you can achieve more success and innovation and become richer and more deals with Dr. Ibrahim Al-Faki this chapter in a set of points as follows::
1 - comfort zone and dull: -
"Every person has the right to risk his life in an attempt to save them," Jean-Jacques Rousseau ..
Change of Kone is the key according to the writer to achieve the successes and gains and Hoalsepel for growth and progress and to reach new heights, and finds Dr. that many people resist change because it brings them out of their comfort zone and insensitivity and perhaps fear of the unknown makes it a lot and Alkthirjadda prefer being confined to that area ..
2 - Aloaspab five make people hate change: -
"There is nothing remains but to change," Hercules
According to Dr Ibrahim al-Feki that our values and beliefs affecting the behavior Nhawwaltgier, and Responses by our actions towards him and the author provides in this part of the subject five reasons that make others hate Alngierohee:
A - doubt: Shakespeare says that "our doubts and our fear make us afraid of things that we could win it"
B - Risk: John F. Kennedy says, "Any program of work involves a lot of risk and cost, but less Bkthirama may result from the actions of a series of awkward safe risks and long-term costs" 0
3 habit: - a lot of people wonder why did not achieve better results and they repeat the same way 0
4 - FEAR: - living in fear will never be free 0
5 - social rejection: - of the important reasons behind the escape of the change is due to the lack of support for others that 0
3 - the five principles that must be followed when making any changes: -
"All that man-made, can change it," Frederick Morvinson 0
Al-Fiqi offers five steps that must be followed so that they can accept change and welcome it:
I make a basic change in your life, and also in the lives of your team
Give yourself and your team a sense of freedom (for complex Ataatkid policies)
Move subordinates among the various sections Binaaaly Base Organization 0
Is Momcn objects from around the
Make your meeting takes new form
4 - How to make your team accept the change?
"Another step forward, and that the human rights risks is free", such as Chinese
A - Put a detailed plan
B - Put a time frame
C - Put a detailed explanation of the plan in a clear manner
D - introduce this explanation in a positive way
E - Explain what will happen to change in detail and its impact expected
And - Give a copy to each member
G - Expect possible objections and preparing to respond to them
H - Be prepared to accept the results
I - Be on hand (to participate with them)
K - hold the responsibility, whatever the outcome
L - Cia continued slowly
M - Be flexible 0
And concludes with Ibrahim Al-Fiqi this chapter by saying he tried to go out of their comfort zone because it is dead zone with the 0000 adaptation and learning Altgeyer 000 Be his friend 00
Perfected the art of change
The fourth key
Tension and the pressures of work ... the challenge of human and fuel success
Mekdorohd not in anger or that there is tension inside you and you alone from that of the Contact Person by the way they decay by the UNAMI A "and Wayne. Dyer
1 - the causes of tension in the hands of Lena WE ..
"All what has been achieved not only a result of all what you think of" Buddha
According to Dr Fiqi that stress affects people differ according to their identities, and their job, and their environment. We are working hard throughout our lives in order to feel Baltotervmthela I hoped that working in a job sublime and that you have Sia Rah, housing, etc. If you are certain you Wish Vaenk back to the starting point and ask for more and tension Facilities for you in all this is different for different types Elena S. and hum some of them to be assisted to achieve, while others lead them to feel Balihba i and desperate.
2 - Oehmaovdil: very little or Alkthirjadda ..
Life is not just to be alive, but to be healthy, "Marsha's
] Do you wonder by saying tensions helpful or harmful to us?
According to Al-Fiqi tension that reduces the productivity of the individual and make him lose focus and self-confidence while tension is very little confidence and not to lose self-esteem.
And finds that it is not in our power tensions, but we can control it.
So you need to be aware of your conscious mind is, so that non-conscious mind to defend you against the tension and will be an automated process.
This way you will be able to enjoy Lakea e Saidploank will be subject to tension and employed to achieve your goals and from access to the desired success.
[U] 3 - the causes of tension: -
"There is no tension in the world, but there are people thinking about things of concern" d / Wayne Dyer
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Dr. Ibrahim review here 4 d according to the properties of a major. Bonn. Howard could lead to tensions at the operational responsibility, namely:
Disability (the most bitter pain Rh when one, is that he owns a lot of knowledge, but does not have the power)
Doubt and uncertainty
Stress at work
Urgency urgent things cause a lot of pressure
The Al-Fiqi 7 reasons others think it is:
1 - lack of power
2 - Upgrade (if you did not feel reassured about the future)
3 - Unit
4 - lack of regulation
5 - Appearance
6 - physical pain
7 - emotional pain (psychological).
4 - signs of stress: -
"Listen to your body because it tells you all murderers Cean silent" d / Faki Ibrahim [/ font]
After you know the author reviews the causes of marks, namely:
The personal
Rise in heart sound
Excessive hunger
Aggressive
Headache
Depression
Lack of interest in various activities
Oblivion
Anger
Restlessness
Preoccupation
Neck and back problems
The list could be longer but one has to speed up treatment.
5 - a combination of self-defense against stress: -
"Great man be at peace, free from anxiety, while the narrow-minded man is usually tense," Konfohieos
Here are some ways the letter from the author to combat stress and overcome, namely:
Delegation: delegating chores for someone else to give yourself more time 0
Management: Manage yourself 0
Team work (under the Jama'ah) 0
Anticipate situations that may cause tension 0
Beware of talking with oneself in a negative 0
6 - to bring tension to yourself the following questions: - [/ color]
Namely:
What is the worst thing that can happen to me?
What is the best thing that can happen to me?
Mamahkd happening to me?
Tell yourself you will take care of this matter 0
Register problem .. And five possible solutions it 0
Does not occupy yourself with the problem may occur within a month 0
7 - strategy book of daily achievements:.
Bring notebook and write a journal of your achievements and be sure to achieve even one thing to hold him in the diary then Positive Snaatk would consider your strengths and motivations of 000
8 - Top:. You an example he made people admire him.
Taken for example, you admire him and tried to be a catalyst for you to eliminate the tension 0
9 - 42 8 respiratory system: -
Sit down and focus your attention on your breathing
Take yourself through the nose slowly promised up to 4.
Save yourself a promise 2
Remove the self slowly from the mouth 8 and then promised to Say to bed now
Repeat this for at least 10 times.: P
10 - peace of mind for 10 minutes: -
Retrieve in your imagination as you relax at the summit, sit or stretch comfortably, and then perform exercise 428 close your eyes traveled imagination to your favorite place to imagine you are there with all your senses focused on yourself and then 0
11 - Exercise: -
There are wonderful recipe mentioned by Dr. Ibrahim Try:.
Breathing system ((breath energy))
Take a deep breath, Fill your lungs with oxygen, and Oust air as if you were blew out the candle Krrzlk 5 times.
Stretch for 5 minutes
Imsheee place in 5 minutes
Carried out slowly in the place
And then some push-ups if possible
12 - March special attention to your favorite hobbies 0.6
Dr must be exercised your favorite hobbies such as reading, cooking, playing and so it relieves the tension of self and expels 00 [/ color]
13 - Feki system to relax: -
"No matter where you are coming, every Mayhem is where you want to go," D / Ibrahim al-Feki
A - Think of a problem of your anxiety Close your eyes
Remember your phone number, a few loud 0
Say your phone number again versa loudly
Imagine the word Montreal or the country in which you Bhaomamk, say the word aloud, by contrast aloud.
B - singled out your arms in front of you, and save it strongly, strongly Ostmervi Oktherookther 0
Relax your hands now, Krrhma exercise 5 times. (This exercise helps you to exercise negative energy)
C - Breathe way 428: -
Close your eyes focused on yourself ...
Your mind back to the time I was at the top nest relax the details accurately when you are relaxing at the top in this experiment Obhmk touch your finger of your left hand East
These are the facilitators that Sthoudrilik of response whenever I get (a relaxing haven)
Breathing in a manner 428. Chronicled and dismantled the brain.
D - Strategy relaxation: -
Twelve feeling comfortable haven to relax and possession of the following focused on the Be ... D Raka and aware of every part of your body ...... Say, I am in full relaxation 3 times ....
E - Now you can test the relaxation haven ..... ...... Open your eyes slowly touch the relaxation haven.]
(What result)
And - if you do not find refuge Alistrhaad to the point 3 and repeated.
G - Repeat the process of relaxing haven.
H - March this process every day .....
Acanutorafiqi concludes this chapter by saying not enough to know how to deal with stress, but must do something about it and be positive ...
V key
Communication Skills ... the way for the self-force
"The quality of life in which we live depends on how we treat ourselves and the way we treat others with"
Provides us with Al-Fiqi in this chapter, the strongest skills and most effective in communication and dealing with people is subject to learn as a writer to devise strategies of others in the deal and how to deal with different types of difficult people, as well as how to use the combination to deal the final to create and achieve intimacy and harmony with others ..
1 - contact is only a kind of perception: -
"The women and their perception is not reality, and I feel it is a picture of what is going on in my mind reflected on my appearance"
According to Dr Ibrahim said the nature of perception differs from person to person and interact with others based on a system of values and beliefs in our assets
The author shows different perception from person to person provides graphical examples include more than one meaning to see all of us in the realization 0
2 - Magic harmony: -
"The heart of the art Thakbak attitude in communicating with others creates a sort of intimacy with the other person," Virginia Satir
The author that familiarity is the most important element in the treatment of others Valtalv is to use the same tone of voice, changes in destination, body movements even breathing system (just like the other person).
According to Al-Fiqi in order to achieve intimacy with someone you should meet with him in his own world you feel that you are not a full appreciation ..
A - the system of representation: (We represent our world through your senses, "d / Milton.
This system means the blades to shift perceptions and organizes storage and our understanding of our refinery and includes five vision systems, hearing, feeling, smell, taste 0
The author argues that the Five Systems is working with some of them often but when each person have one of these systems on the sovereignty of others. There are three characteristics of this system: the person's visual, auditory, sensory 0
B - the eye and Telmihadtha characteristic: "that your eyes are only a reflection of your thoughts"
Faki Ibrahim
The eye movements of great importance in determining what any thinking person wanders at a certain moment and when you can collect information that is spoken and to devise a strategy for the other person, you can deal with him at the same level and create an intimacy between you ...
C - Vocabulary: The words and vocabulary that can be followed from any person and which creates a word full of harmony with this person ..
D - Majarap (parallelism): the process of amending and appropriate yourself with the other person to achieve the intimacy between you 000
E - Compatibility: through compatibility with the language spoken with the other person
Command when the sense of camaraderie with the other test the impact of such intimacy through the change in behavior and observation of the other to track your movements and whether your behavior reflected by the 000
The author reviews the wonderful things to understand the connection more Voktrmen by knowing if there is compatibility between you and the person Alakharom not through the map of consensus and harmony.
In the opinion of Dr. Ibrahim Al-Faki that compatibility with the moderate rate does not mean tradition Valtkulaid to make others laughing matter, while the compatibility between you create rapport 000
3 - Anchors difficulties that people around you everywhere: -
"God has given me serenity to accept things that do not in my power to change it and the courage to change the things that I can change it and wisdom to tell the difference between this and that" Virginia Satir.
The difficulties people Anchors characters are everywhere here and learn techniques that enable you to identify these characters are immediate and fast and deal with it carefully and get the desired results and Estrsal author through the following points in 2000
3 - How do you deal with the patterns of nine people from difficulties Anchors: -
"The deal is the exchange of meanings, give and take between the two" Virginia Satir
Here, Al-Fiqi The nine styles and how to deal with each pattern are as follows:.
A - Group count and real-time, namely: 1 - Revolutionary 2 - miraculous 3 - Mulki blamed 4 - many complaint
5 - negative
B - group repression (repression): -: 1 - very cute 2 - Silent Killer 3 - sufferer 4 - 00 balloon
And how to deal with these patterns mentioned by way of reference can be extended in writing
5 - Twenty-contraband in your connection with others: -
"The communication in human relations is very similar to humans breathe, they both aim to sustain life," Virginia Senz
The twenty-writer way to improve the skill and art of communication and says: -
Do not interrupt a speech in
Atsrk to "Stay calm
Do not make your reaction exaggerated and contrived, but your interest has focused on the outcome.
Do not complain, but went to the right person and spoke to him to resolve the problem.
You do not recognize the world with a sense of people and their demands, but ask them about it.
Ngtermn that people do not know what you feel and what you want but you have to express yourself to them
Not a mockery of and respect the views of others.
Do not criticize or reprimand to one (especially in front of people).
Do not argue, but listen and then explain your point of view.
Do not threaten, because that will come negative outcome in the long term.
Do not be a negative open your heart to new proposals.
Do not talk a lot Give others a chance to participate.
Be fair to Atthiz any party.
Do not dispose of Balom, take responsibility.
Do not leave the one talking to you and you walk, but wait and listen to him.
Do not abound in the use of generalizations, such as always .... Never ..... All ... .
Do not use words such as should be replaced Bandma, however.
Do not use the following words to be negative; (but) ... Replace b (f), (why) .. Replace b (what), (if) ... Replace b (when), (try) ... Replace b (do)
Atakll to others but would Omtdham much.
Do not overlook the personal problems of others and showed them your sympathy, your interest and understanding.
Acanutorafiqi say you have to read it repeatedly and frequency in order to be excellent in dealing with others.
6 - Ten tips for you to follow .. Overlooked and assume the result: -
"The two views is that I take extreme hardship until I find an appropriate word and then say with the utmost precision and ease," George righteousness Rdashr
Having identified the contraband in dealing with others The author deals with what you must do to be excellent in dealing with others, namely:
Invite people by their names.
I listen and encourage others to express themselves.
I commend the good performance and give him the right to praise and reward.
Through always what you feel and what you want.
Tolerance and forget the past and let go quickly.
Smile even though it did not feel so.
Be friendly and pleasant.
Keep information confidential as necessary so.
Be sure to notice the importance of others Ptvkdhm and traffic on them.
Invite others to lunch to dinner to a specific event from time to time.
7 - Do you know how to deal with people with double-sided: -
"His smile was a gain of around but all the other things that would make him lose it all," Borg S. Skolt
The Faki Ibrahim How do you deal with people with double-sided as follows:
Met face to face and ask him about certain things.
Questions about his you.
Experienced what it knows about you and what he said of Khvaik.
If that happens and reiterates the position again He met again and tell him you have to stop it.
8 - Do you know how to address the rumors:
"The best liar is one who makes little of lying is a fact, a long time" Samuel Butler
The author recalls his experience when he was director of a hotel of how the rumors are as follows:.
- Organized a meeting with my team and told them about Common and said to them it is not true and explained to them the truth.
- So I was able to do a quick response and I will be positive, and confirmed the cessation of this rumor.
- Omama was commonly very dangerous, I Hold a public meeting you all subordinates to explain to them the truth Alternatively, the writer says that you can ignore the common.
9 - How do you deal with the conflicts that Tencopin two Mrowsek:
"Best Heouasahih it will make people appreciate the rest Binmasendhish"
Mark Twain
Author provides a set of points on how to deal with these situations as follows:
Encouraged the parties to the interview to discuss the problem.
Failing that, ask them to Iosto people Ihtkmo him
If that fails also invite them to lunch and tell them what you think about during the meeting.
Mentioned Bodahm outstanding in the past.
Explain the problem and their effect on team performance.
Listen without interrupting them and ask them to act both feet Atnohadit other.
Solutions and then ask them to introduce what you think.
EXTENDED aid and assistance and make sure their understanding and acceptance of the solution in question.
Explain to them that negative results will occur if the situation has not changed.
He thanked all.
Sign pursuing them for near ..
10 - effective recipe for successful communication:
"We all breathe and deal with each other .. What is important is how to do it and what the outcome," Virginia Satir
Al-Fiqi offers something more than wonderful to achieve intimacy with others but your relationship with them, even with difficult people, of course: -
A NOTED - harmony - Leadership: - Note the vocabulary of the other person moves, we feel compelled to language, changes fit in with her own par with him.
B - listen with interest and not the county.
C - Keep a smile a warm smile and gentle on your face.
D - to keep the convergence of the eyes.
E - Focus intentions (focused on Nwayaalochrin If you disagree with them).
And - the emotional depth (between you are really interested in the matter of the other person).
G illustration (Mark others to explain more Atktefi Baltamemat).
H re maintenance (Krrmacalh the other in your own way).
I - Insulation (Alochriard you make all the problems if they talk to you a specific problem).
K - demand solutions (ask for solutions from others).
L - lend a helping hand.
PM - Finish the situation and follow-up.
In the opinion of Dr. conclusion of this chapter that the work of all Mafi this chapter will make you better communicate with others.
Decided to start in order to achieve success
Log VI
Goal setting .. The road to happiness and achievements
"It is life, jokes that if you did not accept only the best, you often get" blame Somerset
Dr. submit this chapter to learn everything you need to determine your goals and achieve what they deserve already .. (Gold Medal)
This chapter is the right word of the finest and most important thing I read is subject to the real breakthrough towards a world desired success
Valljadin guides Canutorna form of this chapter is the contents of a gold medal from the words of those who wanted to succeed in his life 000 I hope that everyone will benefit from it is subject to the butter and disturb the conclusion Dzun I guess as well as to the topic 0
The author deals with this in Chapter 9 points as follows:
1 - Do you know where you are going: -
"The world gave way to one who knows where it is going" and Ralph. Emerson
Dr. Ibrahim to see your selection to your destination is the first successful step on the road in order to reach what you want and put all reader inquiries, namely:.
Do you have any purpose? Do you have a structured program to determine the goals? Have you registered your goals?
Have you set the time frame for their implementation and achieve?
If your answer is yes, you and one of the 3% who prefer this.
And if your answer is no, you are within 97% of others who have not do it and says it figures came from a study conducted by Harvard University ..
2 - Five reasons why 97% of people Aihddon objectives: -
"Man without a goal without a rudder Ksuwenh both will end up on the rocks," Thomas Carlyle
Al-Fiqi puts five reasons President, he said that makes the vast majority of people live without a program to identify their goals, namely:
1 fear, "afraid of living will never be a free man"
2 self-perception, "says one of them that your performance would not be appropriate if not consistent with the way you see it by yourself" sense of frustration will be reflected on his step and his performance.
3 delay (delay time thief).
4 of belief and faith, "some believe that setting goals is a waste of time, so they believe the grace of setting goals."
5 knowledge "Some people have the desire and enthusiasm for setting goals, but they do not know the way to achieve and therefore Aitakdhun the necessary steps to learn how to do it.
3 - five behind the rules set goals: -
"It's not necessary to motivate the goals, but they are, indeed, essential to our survival"
Robert
Alec and the five rules:
A self-control: - When you have a structured program to determine your goals will make you more control over yourself in 000
2 self-confidence: - that your faith in your ability to achieve your goals will increase your confidence more and more.
3 value of self / self: - that the value of self-amplified at your selection of goals and strive to achieve them.
Management 4 Time: - you will be a time frame for your goal Fbaelloukt achieved your goals.
5 Improve your life: - that you select for your goals raises the level of your life and make you more
Motivated 000
4 - four parts to locate the target: -
"If you were not to know where you are going you might end up somewhere else," David Campbell
Dr. Ibrahim Al-Faki discusses the four parts to determine the objectives as follows: -
1 Part Profile: - fall under this Part personal items such as relationships, family, marriage, holidays, friendships, the car, and others.
2 Part Professional: - falls below functionality, performance, upgrade ..... Etc..
3 Part of material (financial): - and here we find financial stability - retirement plans - investments. Etc..
4 Health: - and below the falls physical health, lifestyle, exercise, diet .... Etc..
And balance in the four parts of the inevitable by Ibrahim al-Feki to enjoy an exclusive lifestyle here and puts the question, Dr. Ibrahim was going on in the mind of any reader [B] which is how I can achieve this balance? [/ B]
Dr. Ibrahim and answers to this question, giving great guidance, namely: -
Note and observe: - miss a lot of things in life because we Anhtm observation and understanding of attention the first steps to achieve a balance between the four parts of your life 2000
The face of questions to yourself:. These questions and answer them hard will make you according to the writer of the group's most successful men and women in the world and your life will be balanced and the questions are: -
A. Where am I now?
If you are successful in everything except the financial relationships or your situation, for example, try to notice it and then moved to the following question: -
B What do I want?
When you answer this important question you'll be in the right way to achieve a balance between the four parts for example, may be your answer: I want to be rich, I want to getting better health ... When you ask yourself that and answer it then moved to the following question: -
C when I want it?
The answer to this question makes you focus on the time it does not matter the time frame that you want to be important and hard headed in the right direction which will make greater progress and up to points beyond. And then moved to the following question: -
D. How can I get there?
To answer this question will be focused on thinking aids to achieve your goals, for example you want to improve your relationship with your spouse will be the journey with them as a means to improve the relationship with them. After this question, go to the following question: .-
E What do I do now to achieve what I want?
When you ask this question on yourself will make you rush to work to achieve what you want.
Dr Ibrahim after the completion of this part of the subject show today, he noted, users, test your life ask yourself these questions and then rushed to the implementation does not look behind you ...
5 - the three types of objectives: -
"Oe will not be achieved without a great thing of great men, and men are great only if Maazmoa to be as well," Charles Diajul
Here begins with Dr. Ibrahim identify what is the difference between the target and ending the continuing objective ..
"Valmenthi When functionality such as access to be obtained if the objective has been achieved is the end once it achieves the goal."
"The continuing objective is to Unending never let it be your goal for example, continues to establish permanent relations or the organization of life style and the three types are:.
1 Objectives of the short (15 minutes in)
According to Al-Fiqi that this wonderful training objective in order to get used to setting goals ..
2 goals Moderate:. From (year 5 years old)
Caldrash example, this type makes you more committed and longer to achieve the goals ..
3 Purposes of long-term period (25) in
It aims to design a layout for example, the quality of your life where you love to live the relationship with a wife and family ...
Here, Al-Fiqi The experience in three styles can be a wonderful experience tapped into, where he says:
A short-term goals were as follows:
In the beginning of any job five-star hotel I was washing dishes, the study of hotels for a year then got a certificate from the Institute of Quebec hotels.
To medium-term objectives:.
He became director of a section has become the director of the Department of Food and Beverage Service in the rooms.
To get your diploma in the beauty of hotels have got it.
To get your diploma in the beauty of human behavior has been obtained.
I speak English and French fluently and still did so.
A long-term goals:.
He became general manager in a hotel .. In 1987 has become a manager.
To get the 3 positions in the hotel management has been obtained.
He became known and famous, and earn an educational award .. In 1990 won a prize Afezl called household survey from the American School Deals
This was part of his experience and says he can live each day Allamh Flaicom thing itself has faced challenges when it came to what the goals, he said a funny thing and say: Astnton "great minds have goals, but it has a Alakharye wishful thinking"
6 - How do you determine your goals thirteen principles:.
"In order to achieve happiness should make sure that we have an important goal," Earl Ntonjal
These principles are:
1 know what you want?
2 should be your goal realistic, clear, limited and valuable.
3 strong desire (you have to know what you want, and it is valuable, and that no one even you yourself can prevent you from being implemented).
4 Visualization and Visualization (Make sure to visualize your goals even imagine already become part of a reality in your life).
Resolution 5 / (made a decision to begin to achieve your goals).
6 must register your goal in writing.
7 Select the time frame for your goals.
8 I know your fortune / record anything that might help you to achieve your wealth money Kalasedka 00 00 anything.
Start Guide and the liberalization of the potential
The first key
Resolution road to success
"The secret of success in life lies in that a person is prepared to seize the opportunity when it arises"
Benjamin Dezrali
Important in this key covered Dr. Feki 8 points as follows: -
1 - the power of decision-making
There is nothing to discourage "Burns, exclusion of every wrong attempt is only another step forward"
Addison
Here are reviews Fiqi importance of decision-making and the thing that I subscribe to the Ford and Edison and other successful is the decision-making and thus found their way to success.
The author shows that the reason for the survival of the majority of people in the safe zone lies in the failure to take serious decisions for fear of failure.
And the ability to change things, can only be when you decide to be your decision maker.
2 - eight types of decision makers:
"No one is more miserable than one who has become his habit is the only Allagherar"
William James
Here are reviews of Dr. Ibrahim eight models for decision-makers in order to identify any of them you Knowing your style in decision-making is the first step to making the right decision:
A - risk-loving
B - Skirted problems
C - AC
D - his logic
E - Conan (a lot of doubts)
And - emotional
G - Democrat
H - the resolution (last minute)
The author shows that the issue differ on Which is better, not that the decision maker is successful who is flexible charmingly democratic and other emotional and the other a mixture of some models depending on the situation 0
3 - Ten reasons lead to wrong decisions: -
"What's the happiest person that can investigate the causes of things," Vergil
Voyager and Dr. Ibrahim Al-Feki said ten reasons to use them in future decisions, namely:
A - the tension and pressures of work
B - perception (through your efforts to strengthen your point of view and your sense)
C - Fear
D - Anger
E - external influences (Kalmthbtat)
And - narrow-minded thinking (such as resolutions hasty)
G - the ideal (while stopping to think and collect information for the decision may miss the perfect opportunity)
H - not organization and mixing priorities
K - failure to pay attention to the need for swift decision
For - to take decisions based on what you hear only.
Now, says Dr. Fiqi money where you know you should do in case you are ready to find out what you should do
4 - The Ten Commandments to make the right decision: -
"If you have lemons, you making lemonade," Julius
And here and after that I got to know your style of decision-making and stood on the top ten causes of erroneous decisions, it is time to equip themselves to be effective methods you decide which is right
A - accustomed to making decisions in daily and frequently.
B - Learning from previous experiences.
C - you need to consult experts.
D - Imagine you're someone else (look at the decision from the viewpoint of another person.
E - Do not be biased (to your feelings and your feelings).
And - warn the ego position.
G - implementation (do not be late).
H - Be flexible.
I - Avoid generalizations.
J - follow-up.
If your future depend on the decisions of the day .... start today and make the decisions of a small and simple and you should be in a short period to climb the ladder of success.
5 - How to take a collective decision: -
"Life is a daring adventure ...... or nothing" Helen Keller
The author points important to the composition of collective decisions as follows: -
A - Start typing the subject in detail 0
B - distributed to members, and be sure of their understanding of the subject 0
C - asking individuals to give their comments on the topic 0
D - Collect sounds more convenient with the introduction of solutions in Aloattabaralosilp the following:
How much it will cost?
What is the worst case scenario that may occur and how can they be addressed?
What is the best that can be achieved and how to keep it?
What Alatharalgaribp and long-term resolution to this?
E - the deployment of responsibilities to ensure success.
And - monitoring the implementation of the resolution and determine the results.
It says here that Dr. Ibrahim Alaqrarsicon firm and solid to yield the desired results.
6 - How to take an urgent decision: -
"If you do not try to do something beyond what had mastered, you do not ever make"
To address problems that require immediate decisions can not be delayed review the methods of Dr. Ibrahim Al-Faki successful for better decisions, namely:
A - old method (Ben-Hakim)
Here take the paper and Taktha to two columns in one (Yes) and the other is (not) and then write a column in the pros (yes) and the negatives in the column (not) 0
Accordingly, the preponderance of the column with the largest number in 2000
B - to look at the problem from a different perspective:
Any to look at it from different angles, for example,
..................... Position and the position of the different point of view
Increased advertising costs ...................... greater publicity and more sales
[B ]^^^^ important ^ ^ ^ ^
(When you have to take a decision urgently you need to be more conservative and try to get the longest possible time before the issue Resolution)
[/ B]
7 - self-esteem and decision-making process: -
The self-esteem according to Dr. Feki is the key to success is the element Alriisi for a happy life
And self-esteem is a sense of internal peace with oneself.
The author argues that the right decisions that stem from the good feelings and not vice versa
And feeling inadequate hampers to make informed decisions instead of (I can not) replace b (I can)
Dr. Ibrahim, ad and how to build your assessment of yourself: -
A - note the things that you say to yourself
B - Repeat these assertions every day
- Every day improves my appreciation to myself
- I thought to myself I love and respect is conditional
- I make decisions easily
- I'm an excellent decision-maker
C - Department of age to 3 stages each stage 15 years
- Type Now 3 sound decisions taken since I was born until he was age 15 years and record how these decisions on your feelings and your life improved from 0
- Repeat the same in the period of 15-30 year
- Repeat the same in the period from 30-45 year
Here it becomes to have 9 resolutions give you the power Read it from time to time Start today trust in yourself and your eligibility to succeed ....
8 - decision-making process: -
"When it comes to excellence, it is not enough to know, but you should try to get knowledge, and exploited"
Konfbius
In this part of the important subject to be submitted by Dr. Ibrahim Al-Fiqi everything you need for your decision to be successful and correct
"Spend minutes of your time, and which resulted in this duty to begin today at the rise of the ladder of success"
A - Record 3 decisions had already been postponed, select the Action Plan for implementation, and the time required for each decision.
B - Begin implementation now ......... Do not delay Do not delay ..... ..... there is no harm if it made a mistake, everyone makes mistakes ..... It is important to learn from the mistakes of the better decisions in the future.
He concludes that key Al-Fiqi said:
^^^^^( Every great success started in the first decision sparked )^^^^^
The second key
Stimulus in 2000 the driving force of human excellence
"All your actions, whatever your identity, or whatever the job occupied by an item published by the stimulus inside you, whether this stimulation a positive or negative"
Faki Ibrahim
The author deals with this key by 8 points as follows:
1 - What is the motivation? What does it mean?
"The main task of which lies with the person in his life, is that happening and there is the same, you'll be a catalyst, the level of your performance will be at the top and vice versa"
ARCHES Fromm
Al-Fiqi and reviews some of the definitions to stimulate that action by the incentive if Valthvez issued by the desire to achieve a particular goal or when you experience the challenges and you want to make changes for the better you will be here at the top of the stimulus is aiming to achieve your goals without obstacles or failures.
2 - The process of motivation: -
"Perhaps the wonders of life if you rejected all that is below the summit, you always link to it," William Somerset
Al-Fiqi review process of motivation to learn, namely: -
- The desire to start Valthvez desire to achieve a better life
- Imagine Imagine that you achieve your dream and you have already experienced
- Talk to the restraint event yourself gives you the power and provoke you moving I can say
- Verb (implementation) be sure to be done to achieve what you want
3 - the three types of stimulus: -
"There are lots of possibilities to the beginner, but there is little the expert has" Suzuki v
A - the primary incentive to stay:
This incentive covers all the primary needs food, water, air
According to Dr Ibrahim importance to be vigilant and creative catalyst for that to imagine that you become this incentive
All the time then your creativity will be strong and excellent results
B - external stimulus: -
This stimulus comes from outside, it may be read from an article or attended a seminar or phrase I heard or received praise and this ..... According to Al-Fiqi that the misfortune of human beings that depend on these incentives to the feeling of being admired by others
James says "If you wait praise of others, you will become easy prey to deception"
C - stimulation procedure: -
This is the type according to Dr. Fiqi species more power and a continuation of the impact and efficiency of the reason is that you be driven by your strength to achieve your goals of self-Semitism ....
Here, the author recalls this experience to motivate yourself to do it procedure, namely: -
Close your eyes
Breathe deeply
Remember your experience passed
Try to live again as if it were a reality
Breathe the same way ....... I feel the same sensations that passed through your
Repeat this exercise to be skillful.
4 - the fastest ten ways to frustrate subordinates: -
"While I work, I do not care what people say, but my interest was seconded what they are doing," Andrew Carnegie
Ten ways to thwart the subordinates, namely: -
1 - instability (change management style always)
2 - salaries of non-remunerative
3 - humiliation and ill-treatment
4 - false hope
5 - routine
6 - bad products offered by
7 - conflicting goals
8 - to blame
9 - favoritism
10 - Personal behavior
Feki says that if you do not find yourself in one or more of these ten, you are on your way to reach the top 00
5 - five benefits to motivate subordinates: -
"The most powerful thing in the world, is an idea that came at the right time," Victor Hugo
Thvez five benefits for staff:
A - low rate Dorlan staff (change them)
B - low rate of absenteeism
C - the behavior of better staff
D - achievement of the Millennium
E - energy (stimulus generates energy)
6 - Twenty effective way to motivate staff: -
"The best way to determine what motivates people is to ask them," Harold. Alyndon Mac
Namely: -
Praise and appreciation, and there are rules to be effective, namely: -
- To play in public after the completion of the task directly
- Honesty
- Do not exaggerate
- Do not forget to do so always
- Awards / reward
- Racing
- Upgrading
- Training
- Confidence
- Identify the target (the great man is the one who can complete its work by the minds of others)
- Accomplishment (today's achievements is an effort yesterday)
- Credibility
- Decision-making (through the involvement of Almkozvin in)
- Authorization
- Improvement and growth
- Personal behavior
There is a great way according to the writer to motivate employees, namely:
- Maintaining a warm smile
- Listen to them
- Calling them by their names
- Bear the responsibility of your mistakes do not Tlgaha staff
- Be fair
- Be sure to introduce them to the changes
- I respect their time
- Show interest personally Bmrwusik
- Gifts
- Christmas (the celebration of their birthdays)
- Production of good
- Create challenges in front of them
7 - Effective five ways to motivate yourself: -
"There is always a better way for the performance of all, you just have to find" Edison
You have to learn how to motivate yourself to be you the ability to face challenges with confidence and full control of infinitely Here are five methods cited by the writer to motivate yourself, namely: -
1 - goal-setting (select your goal ... to do something every day that brings you closer to the target)
2 - self-development (try to escape from the boredom and apathy) numismatic yourself.
3 - March special interests of your hobby because they lead to a stable life and better.
4 - Privilege Club idea that you find a group of friends at work or outside work meets with them every week discussing with them on specific topics important to you and you will find solutions as they develop and strengthen self-debate to have.
5 - Book achievements daily ... daily record of your achievements in the book I am reading .... and permanently and continuously
8 - NLP and motivation: -
"The man made a plan himself," Bacon
And this is laid out as follows: -
Breathing .... Take a deep breath and promised to one and then remove yourself promised up to four Repeat 5 times.
Perception .... imagine yourself at the top of the stimulus.
The situation ended 00 Stand up and sit with your back in mind to be in an upright position and head to the top
Emphasis ... Say to yourself I can do it 5 times and then repeat it aloud.
Feelings .... Emphasize the fact that the former make you feel all your senses.
Grip .... Now combine your fist, Orkha, then annexed Repeat this several times now when you want to put yourself at the top of Alhvez and preparedness, which included a grip.
This was the conclusion of this chapter (the second key) concludes Dr. Fiqi this chapter proverb Pablelios Sears
"Many people may accept the advice, but only the wise ones who benefit from it"
: Idea
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Decided to be an excellent catalyst
The third key
00000000000 change the true reality of life.
"I am concerned that what is not getting better in the areas of Tvouki, do not take advantage in the areas of Tvouki, not to take advantage of everything I've learned, to know what Hohee right and proper, I can not change that and I gave it to her to address citizen Gergadraly Ikhvaki and sacral" Konfiius
Aims Acanutorafiqi Ibrahim of putting this chapter provide you with the skills to effectively which enables you to cope with change, and adaptation, which helps you, that welcomes the change, and have mastered the arts, the more I knew more about the change and made it part of your daily life, you can achieve more success and innovation and become richer and more deals with Dr. Ibrahim Al-Faki this chapter in a set of points as follows::
1 - comfort zone and dull: -
"Every person has the right to risk his life in an attempt to save them," Jean-Jacques Rousseau ..
Change of Kone is the key according to the writer to achieve the successes and gains and Hoalsepel for growth and progress and to reach new heights, and finds Dr. that many people resist change because it brings them out of their comfort zone and insensitivity and perhaps fear of the unknown makes it a lot and Alkthirjadda prefer being confined to that area ..
2 - Aloaspab five make people hate change: -
"There is nothing remains but to change," Hercules
According to Dr Ibrahim al-Feki that our values and beliefs affecting the behavior Nhawwaltgier, and Responses by our actions towards him and the author provides in this part of the subject five reasons that make others hate Alngierohee:
A - doubt: Shakespeare says that "our doubts and our fear make us afraid of things that we could win it"
B - Risk: John F. Kennedy says, "Any program of work involves a lot of risk and cost, but less Bkthirama may result from the actions of a series of awkward safe risks and long-term costs" 0
3 habit: - a lot of people wonder why did not achieve better results and they repeat the same way 0
4 - FEAR: - living in fear will never be free 0
5 - social rejection: - of the important reasons behind the escape of the change is due to the lack of support for others that 0
3 - the five principles that must be followed when making any changes: -
"All that man-made, can change it," Frederick Morvinson 0
Al-Fiqi offers five steps that must be followed so that they can accept change and welcome it:
I make a basic change in your life, and also in the lives of your team
Give yourself and your team a sense of freedom (for complex Ataatkid policies)
Move subordinates among the various sections Binaaaly Base Organization 0
Is Momcn objects from around the
Make your meeting takes new form
4 - How to make your team accept the change?
"Another step forward, and that the human rights risks is free", such as Chinese
A - Put a detailed plan
B - Put a time frame
C - Put a detailed explanation of the plan in a clear manner
D - introduce this explanation in a positive way
E - Explain what will happen to change in detail and its impact expected
And - Give a copy to each member
G - Expect possible objections and preparing to respond to them
H - Be prepared to accept the results
I - Be on hand (to participate with them)
K - hold the responsibility, whatever the outcome
L - Cia continued slowly
M - Be flexible 0
And concludes with Ibrahim Al-Fiqi this chapter by saying he tried to go out of their comfort zone because it is dead zone with the 0000 adaptation and learning Altgeyer 000 Be his friend 00
Perfected the art of change
The fourth key
Tension and the pressures of work ... the challenge of human and fuel success
Mekdorohd not in anger or that there is tension inside you and you alone from that of the Contact Person by the way they decay by the UNAMI A "and Wayne. Dyer
1 - the causes of tension in the hands of Lena WE ..
"All what has been achieved not only a result of all what you think of" Buddha
According to Dr Fiqi that stress affects people differ according to their identities, and their job, and their environment. We are working hard throughout our lives in order to feel Baltotervmthela I hoped that working in a job sublime and that you have Sia Rah, housing, etc. If you are certain you Wish Vaenk back to the starting point and ask for more and tension Facilities for you in all this is different for different types Elena S. and hum some of them to be assisted to achieve, while others lead them to feel Balihba i and desperate.
2 - Oehmaovdil: very little or Alkthirjadda ..
Life is not just to be alive, but to be healthy, "Marsha's
] Do you wonder by saying tensions helpful or harmful to us?
According to Al-Fiqi tension that reduces the productivity of the individual and make him lose focus and self-confidence while tension is very little confidence and not to lose self-esteem.
And finds that it is not in our power tensions, but we can control it.
So you need to be aware of your conscious mind is, so that non-conscious mind to defend you against the tension and will be an automated process.
This way you will be able to enjoy Lakea e Saidploank will be subject to tension and employed to achieve your goals and from access to the desired success.
[U] 3 - the causes of tension: -
"There is no tension in the world, but there are people thinking about things of concern" d / Wayne Dyer
]
Dr. Ibrahim review here 4 d according to the properties of a major. Bonn. Howard could lead to tensions at the operational responsibility, namely:
Disability (the most bitter pain Rh when one, is that he owns a lot of knowledge, but does not have the power)
Doubt and uncertainty
Stress at work
Urgency urgent things cause a lot of pressure
The Al-Fiqi 7 reasons others think it is:
1 - lack of power
2 - Upgrade (if you did not feel reassured about the future)
3 - Unit
4 - lack of regulation
5 - Appearance
6 - physical pain
7 - emotional pain (psychological).
4 - signs of stress: -
"Listen to your body because it tells you all murderers Cean silent" d / Faki Ibrahim [/ font]
After you know the author reviews the causes of marks, namely:
The personal
Rise in heart sound
Excessive hunger
Aggressive
Headache
Depression
Lack of interest in various activities
Oblivion
Anger
Restlessness
Preoccupation
Neck and back problems
The list could be longer but one has to speed up treatment.
5 - a combination of self-defense against stress: -
"Great man be at peace, free from anxiety, while the narrow-minded man is usually tense," Konfohieos
Here are some ways the letter from the author to combat stress and overcome, namely:
Delegation: delegating chores for someone else to give yourself more time 0
Management: Manage yourself 0
Team work (under the Jama'ah) 0
Anticipate situations that may cause tension 0
Beware of talking with oneself in a negative 0
6 - to bring tension to yourself the following questions: - [/ color]
Namely:
What is the worst thing that can happen to me?
What is the best thing that can happen to me?
Mamahkd happening to me?
Tell yourself you will take care of this matter 0
Register problem .. And five possible solutions it 0
Does not occupy yourself with the problem may occur within a month 0
7 - strategy book of daily achievements:.
Bring notebook and write a journal of your achievements and be sure to achieve even one thing to hold him in the diary then Positive Snaatk would consider your strengths and motivations of 000
8 - Top:. You an example he made people admire him.
Taken for example, you admire him and tried to be a catalyst for you to eliminate the tension 0
9 - 42 8 respiratory system: -
Sit down and focus your attention on your breathing
Take yourself through the nose slowly promised up to 4.
Save yourself a promise 2
Remove the self slowly from the mouth 8 and then promised to Say to bed now
Repeat this for at least 10 times.: P
10 - peace of mind for 10 minutes: -
Retrieve in your imagination as you relax at the summit, sit or stretch comfortably, and then perform exercise 428 close your eyes traveled imagination to your favorite place to imagine you are there with all your senses focused on yourself and then 0
11 - Exercise: -
There are wonderful recipe mentioned by Dr. Ibrahim Try:.
Breathing system ((breath energy))
Take a deep breath, Fill your lungs with oxygen, and Oust air as if you were blew out the candle Krrzlk 5 times.
Stretch for 5 minutes
Imsheee place in 5 minutes
Carried out slowly in the place
And then some push-ups if possible
12 - March special attention to your favorite hobbies 0.6
Dr must be exercised your favorite hobbies such as reading, cooking, playing and so it relieves the tension of self and expels 00 [/ color]
13 - Feki system to relax: -
"No matter where you are coming, every Mayhem is where you want to go," D / Ibrahim al-Feki
A - Think of a problem of your anxiety Close your eyes
Remember your phone number, a few loud 0
Say your phone number again versa loudly
Imagine the word Montreal or the country in which you Bhaomamk, say the word aloud, by contrast aloud.
B - singled out your arms in front of you, and save it strongly, strongly Ostmervi Oktherookther 0
Relax your hands now, Krrhma exercise 5 times. (This exercise helps you to exercise negative energy)
C - Breathe way 428: -
Close your eyes focused on yourself ...
Your mind back to the time I was at the top nest relax the details accurately when you are relaxing at the top in this experiment Obhmk touch your finger of your left hand East
These are the facilitators that Sthoudrilik of response whenever I get (a relaxing haven)
Breathing in a manner 428. Chronicled and dismantled the brain.
D - Strategy relaxation: -
Twelve feeling comfortable haven to relax and possession of the following focused on the Be ... D Raka and aware of every part of your body ...... Say, I am in full relaxation 3 times ....
E - Now you can test the relaxation haven ..... ...... Open your eyes slowly touch the relaxation haven.]
(What result)
And - if you do not find refuge Alistrhaad to the point 3 and repeated.
G - Repeat the process of relaxing haven.
H - March this process every day .....
Acanutorafiqi concludes this chapter by saying not enough to know how to deal with stress, but must do something about it and be positive ...
V key
Communication Skills ... the way for the self-force
"The quality of life in which we live depends on how we treat ourselves and the way we treat others with"
Provides us with Al-Fiqi in this chapter, the strongest skills and most effective in communication and dealing with people is subject to learn as a writer to devise strategies of others in the deal and how to deal with different types of difficult people, as well as how to use the combination to deal the final to create and achieve intimacy and harmony with others ..
1 - contact is only a kind of perception: -
"The women and their perception is not reality, and I feel it is a picture of what is going on in my mind reflected on my appearance"
According to Dr Ibrahim said the nature of perception differs from person to person and interact with others based on a system of values and beliefs in our assets
The author shows different perception from person to person provides graphical examples include more than one meaning to see all of us in the realization 0
2 - Magic harmony: -
"The heart of the art Thakbak attitude in communicating with others creates a sort of intimacy with the other person," Virginia Satir
The author that familiarity is the most important element in the treatment of others Valtalv is to use the same tone of voice, changes in destination, body movements even breathing system (just like the other person).
According to Al-Fiqi in order to achieve intimacy with someone you should meet with him in his own world you feel that you are not a full appreciation ..
A - the system of representation: (We represent our world through your senses, "d / Milton.
This system means the blades to shift perceptions and organizes storage and our understanding of our refinery and includes five vision systems, hearing, feeling, smell, taste 0
The author argues that the Five Systems is working with some of them often but when each person have one of these systems on the sovereignty of others. There are three characteristics of this system: the person's visual, auditory, sensory 0
B - the eye and Telmihadtha characteristic: "that your eyes are only a reflection of your thoughts"
Faki Ibrahim
The eye movements of great importance in determining what any thinking person wanders at a certain moment and when you can collect information that is spoken and to devise a strategy for the other person, you can deal with him at the same level and create an intimacy between you ...
C - Vocabulary: The words and vocabulary that can be followed from any person and which creates a word full of harmony with this person ..
D - Majarap (parallelism): the process of amending and appropriate yourself with the other person to achieve the intimacy between you 000
E - Compatibility: through compatibility with the language spoken with the other person
Command when the sense of camaraderie with the other test the impact of such intimacy through the change in behavior and observation of the other to track your movements and whether your behavior reflected by the 000
The author reviews the wonderful things to understand the connection more Voktrmen by knowing if there is compatibility between you and the person Alakharom not through the map of consensus and harmony.
In the opinion of Dr. Ibrahim Al-Faki that compatibility with the moderate rate does not mean tradition Valtkulaid to make others laughing matter, while the compatibility between you create rapport 000
3 - Anchors difficulties that people around you everywhere: -
"God has given me serenity to accept things that do not in my power to change it and the courage to change the things that I can change it and wisdom to tell the difference between this and that" Virginia Satir.
The difficulties people Anchors characters are everywhere here and learn techniques that enable you to identify these characters are immediate and fast and deal with it carefully and get the desired results and Estrsal author through the following points in 2000
3 - How do you deal with the patterns of nine people from difficulties Anchors: -
"The deal is the exchange of meanings, give and take between the two" Virginia Satir
Here, Al-Fiqi The nine styles and how to deal with each pattern are as follows:.
A - Group count and real-time, namely: 1 - Revolutionary 2 - miraculous 3 - Mulki blamed 4 - many complaint
5 - negative
B - group repression (repression): -: 1 - very cute 2 - Silent Killer 3 - sufferer 4 - 00 balloon
And how to deal with these patterns mentioned by way of reference can be extended in writing
5 - Twenty-contraband in your connection with others: -
"The communication in human relations is very similar to humans breathe, they both aim to sustain life," Virginia Senz
The twenty-writer way to improve the skill and art of communication and says: -
Do not interrupt a speech in
Atsrk to "Stay calm
Do not make your reaction exaggerated and contrived, but your interest has focused on the outcome.
Do not complain, but went to the right person and spoke to him to resolve the problem.
You do not recognize the world with a sense of people and their demands, but ask them about it.
Ngtermn that people do not know what you feel and what you want but you have to express yourself to them
Not a mockery of and respect the views of others.
Do not criticize or reprimand to one (especially in front of people).
Do not argue, but listen and then explain your point of view.
Do not threaten, because that will come negative outcome in the long term.
Do not be a negative open your heart to new proposals.
Do not talk a lot Give others a chance to participate.
Be fair to Atthiz any party.
Do not dispose of Balom, take responsibility.
Do not leave the one talking to you and you walk, but wait and listen to him.
Do not abound in the use of generalizations, such as always .... Never ..... All ... .
Do not use words such as should be replaced Bandma, however.
Do not use the following words to be negative; (but) ... Replace b (f), (why) .. Replace b (what), (if) ... Replace b (when), (try) ... Replace b (do)
Atakll to others but would Omtdham much.
Do not overlook the personal problems of others and showed them your sympathy, your interest and understanding.
Acanutorafiqi say you have to read it repeatedly and frequency in order to be excellent in dealing with others.
6 - Ten tips for you to follow .. Overlooked and assume the result: -
"The two views is that I take extreme hardship until I find an appropriate word and then say with the utmost precision and ease," George righteousness Rdashr
Having identified the contraband in dealing with others The author deals with what you must do to be excellent in dealing with others, namely:
Invite people by their names.
I listen and encourage others to express themselves.
I commend the good performance and give him the right to praise and reward.
Through always what you feel and what you want.
Tolerance and forget the past and let go quickly.
Smile even though it did not feel so.
Be friendly and pleasant.
Keep information confidential as necessary so.
Be sure to notice the importance of others Ptvkdhm and traffic on them.
Invite others to lunch to dinner to a specific event from time to time.
7 - Do you know how to deal with people with double-sided: -
"His smile was a gain of around but all the other things that would make him lose it all," Borg S. Skolt
The Faki Ibrahim How do you deal with people with double-sided as follows:
Met face to face and ask him about certain things.
Questions about his you.
Experienced what it knows about you and what he said of Khvaik.
If that happens and reiterates the position again He met again and tell him you have to stop it.
8 - Do you know how to address the rumors:
"The best liar is one who makes little of lying is a fact, a long time" Samuel Butler
The author recalls his experience when he was director of a hotel of how the rumors are as follows:.
- Organized a meeting with my team and told them about Common and said to them it is not true and explained to them the truth.
- So I was able to do a quick response and I will be positive, and confirmed the cessation of this rumor.
- Omama was commonly very dangerous, I Hold a public meeting you all subordinates to explain to them the truth Alternatively, the writer says that you can ignore the common.
9 - How do you deal with the conflicts that Tencopin two Mrowsek:
"Best Heouasahih it will make people appreciate the rest Binmasendhish"
Mark Twain
Author provides a set of points on how to deal with these situations as follows:
Encouraged the parties to the interview to discuss the problem.
Failing that, ask them to Iosto people Ihtkmo him
If that fails also invite them to lunch and tell them what you think about during the meeting.
Mentioned Bodahm outstanding in the past.
Explain the problem and their effect on team performance.
Listen without interrupting them and ask them to act both feet Atnohadit other.
Solutions and then ask them to introduce what you think.
EXTENDED aid and assistance and make sure their understanding and acceptance of the solution in question.
Explain to them that negative results will occur if the situation has not changed.
He thanked all.
Sign pursuing them for near ..
10 - effective recipe for successful communication:
"We all breathe and deal with each other .. What is important is how to do it and what the outcome," Virginia Satir
Al-Fiqi offers something more than wonderful to achieve intimacy with others but your relationship with them, even with difficult people, of course: -
A NOTED - harmony - Leadership: - Note the vocabulary of the other person moves, we feel compelled to language, changes fit in with her own par with him.
B - listen with interest and not the county.
C - Keep a smile a warm smile and gentle on your face.
D - to keep the convergence of the eyes.
E - Focus intentions (focused on Nwayaalochrin If you disagree with them).
And - the emotional depth (between you are really interested in the matter of the other person).
G illustration (Mark others to explain more Atktefi Baltamemat).
H re maintenance (Krrmacalh the other in your own way).
I - Insulation (Alochriard you make all the problems if they talk to you a specific problem).
K - demand solutions (ask for solutions from others).
L - lend a helping hand.
PM - Finish the situation and follow-up.
In the opinion of Dr. conclusion of this chapter that the work of all Mafi this chapter will make you better communicate with others.
Decided to start in order to achieve success
Log VI
Goal setting .. The road to happiness and achievements
"It is life, jokes that if you did not accept only the best, you often get" blame Somerset
Dr. submit this chapter to learn everything you need to determine your goals and achieve what they deserve already .. (Gold Medal)
This chapter is the right word of the finest and most important thing I read is subject to the real breakthrough towards a world desired success
Valljadin guides Canutorna form of this chapter is the contents of a gold medal from the words of those who wanted to succeed in his life 000 I hope that everyone will benefit from it is subject to the butter and disturb the conclusion Dzun I guess as well as to the topic 0
The author deals with this in Chapter 9 points as follows:
1 - Do you know where you are going: -
"The world gave way to one who knows where it is going" and Ralph. Emerson
Dr. Ibrahim to see your selection to your destination is the first successful step on the road in order to reach what you want and put all reader inquiries, namely:.
Do you have any purpose? Do you have a structured program to determine the goals? Have you registered your goals?
Have you set the time frame for their implementation and achieve?
If your answer is yes, you and one of the 3% who prefer this.
And if your answer is no, you are within 97% of others who have not do it and says it figures came from a study conducted by Harvard University ..
2 - Five reasons why 97% of people Aihddon objectives: -
"Man without a goal without a rudder Ksuwenh both will end up on the rocks," Thomas Carlyle
Al-Fiqi puts five reasons President, he said that makes the vast majority of people live without a program to identify their goals, namely:
1 fear, "afraid of living will never be a free man"
2 self-perception, "says one of them that your performance would not be appropriate if not consistent with the way you see it by yourself" sense of frustration will be reflected on his step and his performance.
3 delay (delay time thief).
4 of belief and faith, "some believe that setting goals is a waste of time, so they believe the grace of setting goals."
5 knowledge "Some people have the desire and enthusiasm for setting goals, but they do not know the way to achieve and therefore Aitakdhun the necessary steps to learn how to do it.
3 - five behind the rules set goals: -
"It's not necessary to motivate the goals, but they are, indeed, essential to our survival"
Robert
Alec and the five rules:
A self-control: - When you have a structured program to determine your goals will make you more control over yourself in 000
2 self-confidence: - that your faith in your ability to achieve your goals will increase your confidence more and more.
3 value of self / self: - that the value of self-amplified at your selection of goals and strive to achieve them.
Management 4 Time: - you will be a time frame for your goal Fbaelloukt achieved your goals.
5 Improve your life: - that you select for your goals raises the level of your life and make you more
Motivated 000
4 - four parts to locate the target: -
"If you were not to know where you are going you might end up somewhere else," David Campbell
Dr. Ibrahim Al-Faki discusses the four parts to determine the objectives as follows: -
1 Part Profile: - fall under this Part personal items such as relationships, family, marriage, holidays, friendships, the car, and others.
2 Part Professional: - falls below functionality, performance, upgrade ..... Etc..
3 Part of material (financial): - and here we find financial stability - retirement plans - investments. Etc..
4 Health: - and below the falls physical health, lifestyle, exercise, diet .... Etc..
And balance in the four parts of the inevitable by Ibrahim al-Feki to enjoy an exclusive lifestyle here and puts the question, Dr. Ibrahim was going on in the mind of any reader [B] which is how I can achieve this balance? [/ B]
Dr. Ibrahim and answers to this question, giving great guidance, namely: -
Note and observe: - miss a lot of things in life because we Anhtm observation and understanding of attention the first steps to achieve a balance between the four parts of your life 2000
The face of questions to yourself:. These questions and answer them hard will make you according to the writer of the group's most successful men and women in the world and your life will be balanced and the questions are: -
A. Where am I now?
If you are successful in everything except the financial relationships or your situation, for example, try to notice it and then moved to the following question: -
B What do I want?
When you answer this important question you'll be in the right way to achieve a balance between the four parts for example, may be your answer: I want to be rich, I want to getting better health ... When you ask yourself that and answer it then moved to the following question: -
C when I want it?
The answer to this question makes you focus on the time it does not matter the time frame that you want to be important and hard headed in the right direction which will make greater progress and up to points beyond. And then moved to the following question: -
D. How can I get there?
To answer this question will be focused on thinking aids to achieve your goals, for example you want to improve your relationship with your spouse will be the journey with them as a means to improve the relationship with them. After this question, go to the following question: .-
E What do I do now to achieve what I want?
When you ask this question on yourself will make you rush to work to achieve what you want.
Dr Ibrahim after the completion of this part of the subject show today, he noted, users, test your life ask yourself these questions and then rushed to the implementation does not look behind you ...
5 - the three types of objectives: -
"Oe will not be achieved without a great thing of great men, and men are great only if Maazmoa to be as well," Charles Diajul
Here begins with Dr. Ibrahim identify what is the difference between the target and ending the continuing objective ..
"Valmenthi When functionality such as access to be obtained if the objective has been achieved is the end once it achieves the goal."
"The continuing objective is to Unending never let it be your goal for example, continues to establish permanent relations or the organization of life style and the three types are:.
1 Objectives of the short (15 minutes in)
According to Al-Fiqi that this wonderful training objective in order to get used to setting goals ..
2 goals Moderate:. From (year 5 years old)
Caldrash example, this type makes you more committed and longer to achieve the goals ..
3 Purposes of long-term period (25) in
It aims to design a layout for example, the quality of your life where you love to live the relationship with a wife and family ...
Here, Al-Fiqi The experience in three styles can be a wonderful experience tapped into, where he says:
A short-term goals were as follows:
In the beginning of any job five-star hotel I was washing dishes, the study of hotels for a year then got a certificate from the Institute of Quebec hotels.
To medium-term objectives:.
He became director of a section has become the director of the Department of Food and Beverage Service in the rooms.
To get your diploma in the beauty of hotels have got it.
To get your diploma in the beauty of human behavior has been obtained.
I speak English and French fluently and still did so.
A long-term goals:.
He became general manager in a hotel .. In 1987 has become a manager.
To get the 3 positions in the hotel management has been obtained.
He became known and famous, and earn an educational award .. In 1990 won a prize Afezl called household survey from the American School Deals
This was part of his experience and says he can live each day Allamh Flaicom thing itself has faced challenges when it came to what the goals, he said a funny thing and say: Astnton "great minds have goals, but it has a Alakharye wishful thinking"
6 - How do you determine your goals thirteen principles:.
"In order to achieve happiness should make sure that we have an important goal," Earl Ntonjal
These principles are:
1 know what you want?
2 should be your goal realistic, clear, limited and valuable.
3 strong desire (you have to know what you want, and it is valuable, and that no one even you yourself can prevent you from being implemented).
4 Visualization and Visualization (Make sure to visualize your goals even imagine already become part of a reality in your life).
Resolution 5 / (made a decision to begin to achieve your goals).
6 must register your goal in writing.
7 Select the time frame for your goals.
8 I know your fortune / record anything that might help you to achieve your wealth money Kalasedka 00 00 anything.
